Do men need advice when it comes to keeping their relationships healthy? Indeed they do. What is it that men who want long term, healthy relationships need to know? Sociologists give us some valuable insight.

Here is a piece of information for men that is of prime importance: Watch women’s actions. It’s not as important WHAT they say they want as it is what their ACTIONS say they want. Confused? It’s not really confusing if you think about it. Let’s use as an example the kind of man a woman chooses.

A woman might say: I want a man who is a good listener. But she chooses a man who dominates the conversation. Or, she might say: The most important thing in a man is a sense of humor. But she only dates guys who have money.

That surely makes a man ask why a woman would say one thing, but act in an opposite way. The answer, my friends, is because there are subconscious motivators that get men and women together. And that is a huge part of the relationship advice men need to know.

The historical, biological reason for men and women to get together is to propagate the species. In other words, just because getting pregnant may be the last thing on her conscious mind, when she evaluates a man at the subconscious level, shes still looking for a good papa for her children. Is the good father someone who listens to her? Sociologists say no. It is someone who will provide for her children. Someone who has the confidence to bring home the bacon.

Sociologists teach us that the physical make up of a woman provides her about 400 chances to become pregnant during her menstrual years. She is subconsciously seeking a father for her children that will provide them with stability and longevity. Since this is an important part of her evaluation process, she will, for instance, view a doctor a better choice than, say, a nurse. She perceives the doctor would be in a better position to insure the future well being of her children financially, but she also wants to be sure he is generous toward her children. This is one reason women attach importance to gift giving.

It may also be why the engagement ring must be such a large purchase. When you ask a woman to marry you, you give her a ring, not just because it is traditional and romantic, but because it is a tangible display that you can provide for her and her children.

Further, even though modern humans make more money from their brains than their brawn, women are still programmed to think of strength equaling the ability to provide. Thats why, even when there is evidence to the contrary, the woman is hardwired to choose the lineman over the computer geek.

So, men, learn from what the sociologists have taught us. Consider what thousands of years of history has programmed into your woman. When you do that, you will know what she really wants. Then give it to her.

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